Saturday, August 11, 2012

The " one per cent wife "...





Every morning while Alki and I are in Greece we have somewhat of a daily routine.  We wake up, have our breakfast which always consists of hard boiled eggs and avocado with olive oil, and then go into town where we stop at the magazine shop and then head to a cafe for our morning espresso and my favorite, Frappe. This particular magazine shop has tons of english magazines so I grab 2 each day and look through them for outfit ideas, swimwear inspiration and interesting stories.

In this magazine called Grazia from the UK (which I LOVE and I'm totally going to subscribe to)  there was a story about woman who "Married rich and lost their ambition" which I took a particular interest to. The question that started the article was,

"Would you give up work if your partner earned enough for both of you"? 



Cherie Blair, a barrister and ex prime minister Tony Blair's wife, and writer Elizabeth Wurtzel say that woman who do indeed leave their jobs after marrying a "very rich man" are "betraying feminism". 
Here in this article a former lawyer Francesca,37, tells her story and gives her view.















I thought this article was really interesting. I get a lot of heat from randoms/ haters on the internet and although I expect it for putting myself out there, I do feel the need to defend myself and my life from time to time.

Having my Frappe reading the article above <3

So heres my story.

I grew up in a upper middle class Italian family in what is referred to as the "second city", White Plains, NY.  We had the typical "american family", mom , dad, my brother and myself. Within a 3 mile radius you can visit the hospital I was born in, my nursery school, my elementary school, my middle school, High School and so on. I grew up with mainly the same group of kids from elementary school all the way through high school, and I still keep in touch with most of my graduating class  through both twitter and Facebook.

I was an average student excelling in all things Artistc, my entire family is in the arts from opera singers with full scholarships to Juilliard, fashion and jewelry designers, seamstresses and web design and the list goes on. Its a no brainer I became a swimwear designer.  I was friends with everyone in high school, A Cheerleader for both Basketball and Football, dated the quarter back of the football team,  and went to cosmetology school in both 11th and 12th grade half day to get my license.

My parents divorced when I was 13 and up until then my mom was a stay at home mom, we didn't have any nannies. When we got a little bit older she started her own company of sewing upscale window treatments which she was able to do at home to make some extra money and keep her busy while we were at school. My father worked in construction and design. He designed kitchens and bathrooms, outdoor decks and patios and still does to this day.

I worked since I was 14 years old . I started at a popular clothing store called Havana Jeans in Scarsdale, NY. During the summers when I was off from school I worked at the local pool club behind the concession stand working the register, flipping burgers the whole nine. From there I went back into retail and worked at Aldo Shoes. When I was 18 I started working in an upscale hair salon in town called Salon Savior where I started as an assistant and eventually was doing makeup and waxing. While working at the hair salon I was also working the door and guest list at a number of clubs in NY and CT at night and on the weekends for extra spending money, I figured I would be out partying anyway so might as well make some money doing it. 

 It wasn't until I was in college  that I started modeling. I signed with a few agencies in NYC for Fitness, Parts, TV and Commercial and Commercial Print. Im only 5'6 so doing runway and high fashion editorials was unfortunately out of the question for me. It was then at age 21 that I signed my first big endorsement deal with a Fitness Supplement company called Met-Rx. I was the youngest one on the team, was their cover calendar model and was in all of their ads. It was a dream job for me! Around the same time I signed that contract I started booking everything I went on an audition for, literally. My body was perfection and was bringing in the big bucks LOL, well, thats relative really, but it brought in enough that I was able to quit my job at the hair salon and went into pursuing my dream of modeling full time.

So proud to be on the cover of the 2007 Met-rx Calendar!

Up there with Phil Heath

BSN with my girl Alicia Marie <3


My mom always told me, "save for a rainy day". I had a bank account since I was born and would always put 2/3 in the bank and keep 1/3 to spend of any paycheck I brought in. A few years after I started modeling the economy crashed, 3 of my agencies closed and there was no money in modeling and acting at that time. My passion was fashion.  My entire family knows how to sew. My grandmother would sew her own dresses to wear to weddings and my mom would alter all of my clothes as a kid because I was so skinny. They all taught me how to sew on a sewing machine, but when it came to designing and sewing swimwear- I'm happy to say I'm self taught!

During my contract with Met-rx, later BSN and then STS- Supplements we would go to the Mr. Olympia Fitness convention every year in Las Vegas.  I LOVE Vegas! I live for the pool parties, I love to dance, and when you work hard for your body- who wouldn't want to show it off. I would design and sew my own outfits to wear at the fitness booths at the show and also make my own bikinis to wear at the pool parties once work was over. So many girls would come up to me asking where I got my bikinis from that I decided then I would turn it into a line, and thats how I started my now very successful swimwear line.

Vegas with my boo.. I hand made this bikini !

Hand made bikini by me before I started my line.



What does this have to do with the article above? 

In 2009 when I decided to start a swimwear line I also met me now husband Alki. He is a wealthy business man with both old and new money and lets just say he makes enough that I wouldn't have to work a day in my life... ever, if I didn't want to. 

Running a swimwear line is not easy. I WISH people knew what went into producing those cute little pieces of barely there material that can be rolled up and fit into a sandwich bag. It's not something to just " keep me busy"as lots of haters people think. I thoroughly enjoy being my own boss and doing what Im doing and can side 100% with the article above. There is nothing wrong with giving your career a break or quitting your career all together if you can financially do so but more importantly, want to. I mean, don't we work to be able to save for retirement one day and not have to worry about working anymore anyway??? Like the article said, being a woman and having that choice is both liberating and free, what more could you ask for.

 I was 24 when I got engaged and 26 when I got married. I enjoy having my swimwear line and hope it turns into something huge and amazing so I can be accomplished and feel like I'm contributing to mine and my husbands lifestyle. If it does succeed, and even if it doesn't, I will eventually want to stop doing what Im doing and be a stay at home mom/ wife, raising children the best I can, going to the gym everyday, having lunch with other moms like me and so on. For now however, I'll stick to designing swimwear  with my partner Lilly :)

Have Faith Swimgerie
Lilly Ghalichi and I
www.havefaith.com

I don't see anything wrong with making that choice though. I don't think that betrays feminism or that it is something to look down upon. There is no wrong or right when it comes to what you want to do with your life and how you want to live it. I think quite frankly, if you could, you would and those who look down upon the 'one per cent wives' who choose to trade in their careers to be stay at home wives/ moms are just jealous and envious that they can't.

Thoughts ?!

xx
Jennifer
A future "one per cent wife".

Greece Picture Update:

View from our bedroom window 



Having my Fav Frappe and reading my mag 

Leaving the house to go to Hydra



Shirt from Urban Outfitters, skirt from Jens Pirates Booty

My brother and I


The boat is a Sunkeeper- so classy! Bottom pic is Hydra, Greece. <3


Poolside boot camp with my step sons and friends. <3 Bikini from www.havefaith.com

In town after dinner having fresh greek yogurt from I love Yo . 

Top, American Apparel, Skirt- from Intermix.

Going into town via dirt bike. xx

My new Celine Gold Chain Sunglasses.. OBSESSED!!!! They are waiting for me at home in NY






ADDITION!!!!!

My very well known friend Jayne Wallace who is a psychic is in California until monday and is able to do readings both in person and over the phone. If you didn't read my "How I met My Husband" blog post click the link below to learn more about what Jayne did for me. She is so legit I swear you will be amazed and 100% happy with her.



You can email Jayne directly at Jayne@jaynewallace.co.uk
to schedule your reading either over the phone or in person.
Let her know I referred you :)


115 comments:

  1. Great blog update, Jen! I have been following/reading your blog/twitter for almost a year now and think you are amazing and very accomplished!

    Sometimes it seems like you keep saying the same thing to all your haters, it is sad that you keep having to repeat and defend yourself. I am the bread winner in my relationship so I really envy you for being able to have a career that you love and enjoy and still having time for yourself. But, it doesn't make me think that you are a gold-digger, I can appreciate you and your lifestyle.

    Enjoy your vacation! Would love to see what make up and hair products you've been using in Greece. Seems like you are doing a lot lighter make up and beachy relaxed hair. So cute!

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and comment. Its true, but people/ haters will only see and hear what they want to..

      Thanks again
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  2. Absolutely enjoyed reading this post, one of your most inspiring yet. No one should have to explain themselves or apologize for the lifestyle they have but the fact that you have just shows how humble you still remain. You're right, feminism is having the right to choose. Society's idea of feminism is not. So embrace being blessed and when you do become the One Percent Wife, know that you very Damn well Earned it! :)

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  3. I believe that we all have the life we deserve. We make our own choices which leads us to different paths. I can relate to your situation Jen I grew up in NY always had a job since age 14 and Fine arts and fashion are my passion. I do have to say in my late twenties I dated a wonderful and very wealthy older Man that gave me opportunities beyond my dreams and most importantly believed in me. Unfortunatly I did not realize I had lost myself in him. until our relationship dissolved and he left this world due to Cancer. The point I am trying to get acrossed is no matter how much wealth, status or power our partner has that does not define who you are or accomplish in your journey. I embrace autonomy, live your life For you and your purpose.

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    1. Im so sorry to hear that. Thank you for your comment. I hope it doesn't come across that I think woman who marry wealthy should quit their jobs. I work because I want to work and will continue until Im ready to stop ( having that option ). I agree- live your life for you. xoxox

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  4. Hi Jen! You are amazing! I've also started having avocado and eggs on breakfast and my tummy feels much better than after oatmeal. I remember you mentioned in one of your previous posts that someday you'll tell us all about your diet in details. I cannot wait to read it. I'd like to change my diet but just don't know where to start. I've already cut down on junk but don't know if it would be enough. If you know something, please share with us.
    Have a wonderful vacation!! xx

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    1. I feel like my diet always changes depending on where I am. I will do an updated post though because since January of this year I gave up eating meat.
      xx

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    2. I would love to read about this. I've been a vegetarian for two years and since then I've been eating horribly (totally my fault, not vegetarianism) and gaining like crazy.

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  5. You are a 'one percent beauty'. I know you've got a kind heart too. Most wouldn't even entertain the other side's opinion. If a woman living her life happily has any effect on feminism, then feminism is flawed. Do you, Jen!

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  6. How did you get a job at 14? I'm turning 15 in a month and everywhere they tell me I can't work till I'm 16

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    1. Legally you can work at 14 and get your working papers. Maybe the store took a risk- but please keep in mind this was also 13 years ago so maybe things have changed.

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  7. Obviously you were popular in high school but were you like one of those bratty girls or the friendly ones? Most cheerleaders at my school are like really stuck up..Also, how big was your school?

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    1. I was never bratty. Like I said I was friend with everyone. My graduating class was a little over 300 kids. I was a pretty happy kid with a good group of friends. I miss high school and how simple and carefree things were then.

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  8. OMG! U so said it, who doesn't wanna have that option? Question shouldn't be about women NOT giving up their careers to live off their men, but why that isn't an option for men with wealthy women as well! As for u, Jennifer, that might not be an option yet (u are succesful in urself, but maybe not enough to support a luxury loving hubby), but for the rest of the world it should be!

    I feel kinda sad for the woman who wrote the article though, it seems to be part laziness that let her to give up her career. I'm swedish but I've spent a lot of time in the middle east, and women there tend to just by chance give up their careers. Husbands are always ready to provide, and then it just sorta happens.

    For myself, I hope to one day marry the love of my life (please stop fighting in Syria so we can get married there!!!!) have a bunch of kiddies and then work with whatever I want, fully supported by him and his full of money making businesses in Dubai =). Maybe a researcher at some interesting uni over there? Who knows!

    Love it when u write like this!

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    1. Helena, Thank you so much for this. I don't plan on stopping anytime soon. Im pretty determined to have my company be successful, like 7 digits successful LOL. I think if I stopped now I would get bored to death being that we don't have children yet. Good luck to you and your fiancé ?!?!?!? Everything will work out as it should .

      xoxox
      j

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  9. I hope the "haters" read this Jen! You had a "normal" upbringing and from the early age have wanted to work and be successful. Just because you married wealthy doesn't mean you are spoilt or selfish. Some people are just so miserable in their own lives that they need to bring people down. Sad and frustrating, but there will always be people like that.
    Of course I would love to be able to afford Celine sunglasses & handbags, but I can't! Yeah I'm envious, but why hate on people that can. My life is amazing! My husband is everything I could ask for and I come from a loving, supportive, funny family!
    Keep doing what your doing Stano, cos I love your blog and your instagram! You are one lucky lady and what makes it great is that you are clearly happy :)
    Xxx

    RunwayBrooklyn.Blogspot.com.au

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    1. I love you girl. Thank you for always sticking up for me, here and on IG.. It doesn't go unnoticed .
      It's true, with everyone someone can have- if they are NOT happy its meaningless.. I would much rather be happy than have everything in the world and be miserable.

      xoxox

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  10. Love your blog posts! So inspirational!! You seem very intelligent and strong-willed. You're very bright, and don't even bother with haters!!!

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  11. My dearest Jen...
    My name is Susie and love reading your blogs, I recently discovered you on instagram and admire you, I love your relationship, your beauty, your success and most of all your humbleness!!! Your relationship reminds me a lot of mine, the way you met Alki, except not with all the wealth (lol). I also am a cosmetologist like you, did hair for several years and love doing it. In 2008, GOD blessed us with a beautiful baby girl named Selma, I then without a doubt gave up my career and didn't look back. In 2009 a baby boy names Jr. I thank god for my husband (the Aquarius) that supported my decision, even though we were barely making ends meet, there was a god that looked down at us and blessed us. I till this day am a stay at home mom and love it, even though it's the toughest job out there, I still would not trade it for any money❤. So when your ready to become a one per cent wife, go for it girl!!! I'll still read your blogs��..... Here's to all the one per cent wives out there��

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    1. Awwww , your post brought tears to my eyes. I too am an Aquarius. I adore your story and can't wait for the day that God blesses me and Alki with a beautiful baby as well. I will for sure blog everything once Im pregnant too lol.

      Cheers to us.
      xoxo
      J

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    2. Thanks Jen!
      Please see my instagram account if you would like to see my beautiful family @sasunee or Susie Matti Aular��

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  12. What do you consider "average grades'?

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    1. Gosh, its been almost 10 years since Im out of school.. Hmm.. Mainly B's the occasional A's and a C here and there ?!?!? LOL

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  13. how much is a reading with jayne over the phone?

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  14. Good post Jen. People who hate are just jealous. They want to assume the worst about you and your relationship because they are insecure and want to make themselves feel better.

    Anyone with half a brain can tell that you and Alki are crazy about each other and having been around you two it is so evident you two are madly in love with each other and meant to be together. Anyone who wants to assume otherwise is a waste of space.

    I hope you are having fun in Greece it looks amazing<3

    xoxo

    jenna

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    1. Miss you too gorgeous!

      Tell Alki I say hi and when you get home from Greece give my boy Satan a big kiss for me!

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  15. Great post!! I am so glad I found your website. I have worn one of your swimsuits in Vegas and was getting compliments all day, it truly is unique and u definitely stood out. I went to nursing school and worked my butt off only to get pregnant and have my baby 6 weeks before graduation. I feel so lucky to be a stay at home mom. I figure work will always be there but my babies, I have 2 now, will not be babies forever. Can't wait til you have some of your own, they are goin to be some tan gorgeous kids:)

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    1. lol awwwwww <3 And YAY!! Im so happy you have one of my bikinis!!!
      xoxoox

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  16. Your story is very inspirational. I hope people take the time and read your blog to get to know more of how you came to be the person you are today. People keep forgetting that you had a whole life before you even knew Alki and that you're your own person. I admire you a lot, Jen <3

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  17. Who cares about the haters... you have so much more followers and fans who adore you. Anyway, you look stunning and I can't wait for more photos. :D I hope you blog about your pregnancy too!

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  18. I am a one per cent wife and it's the happiest I've ever been.it works for us and that's what matters.whos to judge? Love this post and ur holiday snaps xx

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    1. Thanks Jennifer :) Having that choice is what people should focus on :)
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  19. Loved your post (and Grazia was my favorite magazine when I lived in London - I miss it!)

    I totally agree that feminism isn't about forcing yourself to work - it's about having the choice. I graduated with honors and joined an investment bank right out of college. Hubby and I met there - and got married 2 years later. The most important thing for us is quality of life - he makes enough for us to be comfortable (we're far from the 1% though!)

    I'm at home with the kids - when they were babies we had a nanny to help me out - and now they're in school, I'm still at home. If I wanted to go back to work, hubby would fully support that, but he is equally happy having me at home and managing the house and being there full-time for our kids.

    The way we see it - we're able to really enjoy our family life and our kids (with less stress and more free time) - and that's what is most important to us - and we feel very blessed :-)

    p.s. Love your blog and your willingness to share all your beauty & fitness secrets :-)

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    1. I couldn't agree more with what you said. Thats how I feel exactly.. Thank you for sharing your story
      xoxoox

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    2. Ella, I wrote a comment above stating that surely everyone who has a choice is damn lucky to have it! But I'm just curious, as for u and ur husband u met in work, right? Were u on the same level, or was he making significantly more money than u? If not, did u ever consider that he should be the one to quit his job to stay with the kids? I really truly believe this is where we need to change our mindset! Coz I'm betting the question of him or u staying with the kids never arose...

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  20. Honestly, the first time I read your blog I was so jealous and envy with everything that you have but then as I got to read more and more about you, I realize that you have such a kind heart, very humble and sensitive. Those are exactly the reason why I keep coming back here. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

    Hope you have an amazing holidays!

    Xoxo from down under :-)

    NyC

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  21. Great post topic. It can be hard to stay motivated and keep on working while having a wealthy man on your side, so I really respect all the women who do so (including You :)).
    My story is something similar: my boyfriend has a pretty good financial situation, not a billionaire :)), but we could lead a decent life, without my financial contribution. I'm a 3rd year resident in neurology, and have a VERY poor salary (200 euros/month, ridiculous-but true). A lot of learning, a lot of hard work , poor working conditions, but still I have never thought a moment about giving up! I was raised in the spirit of loving work, and I do! That's the way I feel complete.

    On an other note: so good to see you get so well along with your stepson, I'm sure your great personality helped a lot.

    P.S.: Lovely look with the floral top, it reminded me to the dolce&gabbana SS ad campaign!

    xoxo Agnes

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    1. Good for you Agnes its very inspiring <3
      Im lucky my step sons were raised so well but both their mom and dad. We really do have a great relationship with mutual respect.
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      J

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  22. You are so beautiful, just love your blog. I'm a big fan from Sweden, everything you write is so great, inspiring, and people who have another opinion is always there but just try ignoring them.
    I just have to ask for also read about your surgery, because it is so that I will operate the breasts, he was recommending me 400cc I trust his job it will be perfect, so when I found you, you have exactly the same body from which I also as I read I just wanted to ask you if you still have 400cc or if you have reduced the size '. for you have an incredible body.
    Excuse my English if it sounds a little weird in some sentences :)
    Love Nati

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    1. Aw thanks Nati

      Im at 500cc silicone adhesive gel and I wear a 32 D ( american )
      Im 5'6 112lbs
      Hope this helps xx

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  23. I was trying to post something last night but I have a new phone and it didn't work so here I go again LOL. I think most people are jealous because in this economy so many women just don't have the choice to stay home let alone drive nice cars or live in nice houses. Most are just wondering how they can put food on the table. I understand how they feel because me and my family have been there. But I am 100% with you. I wont sit here and say we have tons of money like you and your hubby. But I will say that he does well. He has a job he loves, he makes good money doing it and we have more then enough to enjoy life. We don't worry about much. I am blessed to have a man who works hard and wants to give me the best life ever. I don't have to work and I don't at the moment (I lost my job), but we still have more then enough. Plus we are only in our mid 20's .I am disabled and he works so who ever says it's hard out there I understand but some how we made it fine together and we are ok with how it is him working and me being the women at home. I want to work and use my schooling but I love having that freedome to find something I love and do what I love and be taken care of and not worry. Of course I see people and celebes who I don't like and don't like the life style they have but I would never ever go out of my way to hate on anyone "jealousy is when you count someone else's blessings instead of your own" that's 100% how I feel. I feel so so blessed in my life with the most amazing man. We have such a great relationship and I don't pay attention to any of the negetive comments. I could care less. If I want to stay home or if I don't it shouldn't matter I know in my heart that my amazing man is there by my side and that is all I need. And it's all you need so don't let the haters get to you. Enjoy what you are doing and lets the haters hate. They are just pointless people that will never make it in life if they don't learn to enjoy what THEY have and nother look at what others have.

    And enjoy Greece!

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    1. So true Aleksandra, thank you so much for commenting and sharing your story. Like the comment above, Agnes loves to work even on a low salary. The post wasn't me saying that this is how I think all woman should be, but just defending those who choose not to work, I hope people realize that

      xoxo
      J

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  24. I too am married with a man who has money and your story is similar to mine. I came from a middle class family so in the beginning of our relationship everything was so new to me. $3,000 bags, spontaneous last minute vacations, 5 star restaurants etc. Which scares me in a way (and I would never admit to anyone) but because if I had to change my lifestyle it would be the hardest thing for me. I am too accustomed to not worrying about prices/bills etc. It would be devastating for me! I don't work but I do bake a lot, try new recipes, play tennis etc. I love it. Anyone who says that we are "betraying feminism" well I would like to use an other word but they are plain "jealous". People work for MONEY and Health benefits. I never worked somewhere that I didn't have too look at my watch and think when the hell am I getting out of here! Although maybe if I had my own swimline like you I would love it ;) Anyways Another thing that irritates me is when people like to use the term "gold digger" well than I would call my husband a "beauty digger" because I consider myself Beautiful. It's fine for a man to demand and call for a beautiful woman with a hot body yet we desire a man with a healthy wallet and all hell breaks lose? I don't need a muscular man who thinks he's Gods gift to women. I need a responsible man like my husband who treats me like a queen and put our children through Harvard. Enjoy your life because those who say other than "YOU'RE BLESSED" has jealousy in their heart.

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    1. I hear you 100%. Thank you for writing in and sharing your story. I wish you the best <3

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  25. Hi Jennifer
    I love your David Yurman ring can you tell me if it's 16 x 12 mm size please? Love your picture always have cute outfit idea! xx

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    1. Its the larger one. They come in 2 sizes, small and large :)

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  26. I love reading your twitters and blog posts and have been following you ever since I saw you on The Spin Crowd on E. I admire your humbleness and your genuine attitude and believe you keep on having these blessings because of what you put out into the universe. You truly are an inspiration and I admire more then any other celebrity put there. Keep up the great work and forget the haters. Btw I bought one of your maxi dresses on your have faith site and get mad complements everytime I wear it :-)

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    1. AW thank you so much.. This was so sweet xoxoxoxooxoxox

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  27. Hi Jen what is the brand of the blue goldish top u r wearing in the pic u r reading the magazine and where can I buy it. Thx

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    1. It was given to me by my friend Lilly, its by Sass and Bide :)

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  29. Hi Jennifer! I've been following your blog for a couple months now but this is my first time commenting! I'm in total agreement with you. I recently quit my corporate job a couple months ago so that I can pursue my passions in makeup and blogging. I feel so blessed that my hubs can provide for us and that I can pursue my dreams without having to worry about our finances. I think it's awesome that you have your swimsuit company and encourage you to run after every dream and idea you have since you've been blessed with great resources! I'm excited to see how your company and passions unfold! :)

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    1. Thanks so much girl, and best of luck to you as well.
      xx

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  30. I have a Master's Degree from the University of California and I am unfortunately a working mom. I wish everyday that my husband made enough for me to stay home and just be "mom." It has nothing to do with lacking ambition. When you are lucky enough to be married to your soulmate and the love of your life, priorities shift. Jennifer, when you become a mother and it is YOUR choice to stay home and enjoy the perks that your husband's wealth has been able to afford you, I promise that you will never feel like you have compromised who you are or that you have betrayed feminism. Your children and your family will be number one, and that is something that you will never regret!

    P.S. Thanks for allowing many of us to live vicariously through you! I love the Pirates Booty skirt by the way :-)

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  31. I completely agree with you Jen. I read all these comments these haters leave and I think...what is wrong with these people, why are they so jealous that someone is doing good, spending money and actually happy with their lives. I do not understand them and I am sure it is hard to ignore them, but be strong and know you have a lot of people who support you. I feel that life is way too short to not live it how you want. I mean that is why we all work so hard right? Is to live a certain type of lifestyle. And then when people actually achieve it, all of these haters come out. I can't believe as women we can't be more supportive. It's almost crazy to be honest. Well I hope you are having an amazing time in Greece. Family is the best! And I hope to see you have children soon, kids are so fun. I can totally see you being a mom too :)Also I am starting an online designer boutique and I would love to collaborate with you and maybe get a wholesale relationship with Have Faith and have your bikinis be featured on there. Let me know if you are interested and I can send you more info. I posted this as anonymous because there are too many haters out there. If you would like I can send an email to the Have Faith email? Let me know if that works. Thanks Jen!:)

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    1. Hey girl. Thank you so much for the support. I realized this more when my grandmother passed in July. Life is so short, say what you feel, how you feel, what you want. Life is too short to live by anyones rules but your own.

      I cannot wait to become a mom, I pray everyday for a baby girl!
      Congrats on the boutique, please email info@havefaith.com

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  32. i would love to have my education and maybe work for a bit but if a marry someone who can pay for both me and him. I'm defenitly staying home haha, sorry for the bad english

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  33. Dear Jennifer,

    You are very beautiful woman! And very very lucky! Wish you everything the best !!!

    By the way DO YOU SMOKE CIGARETTES ?

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    1. I smoke rarely, maybe 10 cigarettes in an entire year.. if that!
      That picture of me in vegas smoking was from years ago but also when I would drink I would smoke.. Not a good habit- it truly ages your skin. Im glad I don't smoke xx

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    2. Maybe I am just naive, dumb, and young, but I thought that smoking is very addictive....?

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  34. Just wanted to say, that your style is just perfect, so femine and a little crazy too.. adore it!!
    You seem to have a great personality and i really admire your honesty and enjoy reading your posts.

    Have a pleasant time in Greece, it is a wonderful place !
    Greetings from Estonia!
    J.

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  35. Jenny I loved this entry. Thank you so much for sharing this article. I am one of the 1% wives. After my hubby and I got married I moved up to where he lived ( almost 3 hours from my finance job) and it just made no sense for me to drive 6 hours everyday and take care of 2 homes (mines and his), our dogs, finances, and sometimes step kids. We don't need a second income, my husband does very well where I don't have to work either, so instead I decided to go back to school and persue another degree in something I actually i'm really interested in and I could see myself doing in the future (My own Med Spa). Again thanks for the great post. I look forward to your entries. You are very real...that's very hard to find. Enjoy Greece and please don't abandon Luna when you leave, God linked you guys for a reason... please help her don't leave her on the streets un attended. I can't wait to see the beautiful babies!! :)

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    1. Heye girl. Awwww I love you and I hope we get to cross paths one day. Luna has a home here with our 3 other dogs. She fits right in and is such a good girl. She's officially ours :)

      xx

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  36. I was reading through comments when I saw your explanation of your "redemption" tattoo...may I ask what your "run-ins with the law" were?

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    1. LOL.. That will have to wait for a post. Its worth it xx

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  37. I think that as long as its the womens choice then she can choose what ever she wants. My husband just started a new jon were he is earning a great wage now and so I stopped working for myself( at home hairdresser) I love being a stay at home mum now and can put all my energy into my kids. My choice.
    I do however have issues with mums that don't work but put there kids in child care or have nannies. I mean why have kids. Love your swim wear if I had your body I wear it all day. Elesha

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  38. I noticed that you love off-the-shoulder shirts (evident in you DMP's and you DIY post). I love them too, the way they look so cute, feminine, and effortless. But I have trouble. I can never get the shirt to stay in a perfect postion like yours, with a little arm and shoulder showing. Its either high in the front and super low in the back or if I try to show a little shoulder, my entire upper arm gets exposed. Also, do you wear a strapless bra with it? People tell me that people like me with big boobs cannot wear strapless as it gives little support...Help!?

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  39. Hey Jennifer, I just wanted to say first off that I love your blog. It definitely helps me liven up my closet with your Daily Mirror Pictures! I wanted to ask you, when you started your modeling career for Met-rx and fitness in general what was your usual weight and what type of diet did you have and excercise regimen? I really want to get into fitness and modeling for fitness companies like you did so I was just wondering how you did it. Your definitely an inspiration to me (:

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  40. Hey there,

    After reading your post, I had to read the original article about Cherie Blair's comments for myself. As a married woman, who has no kids and works [in education] because I want to - not because I have to, it frustrates me when women criticize other women, regardless of what it is about. I think that criticizing other women, for any reason, is really what sets back feminism and women.

    While I agree that it is important for girls to strive to be financially independent, as that was always my mother's goal for me and my sister, I don't think it harms children to see their mother stay at home for their well-being. Working in education, I wish more parents would prioritize their children as the most important thing[s] and put more effort into raising them.

    Love your blog, it's so much fun :)

    Molly

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  41. Jennifer after you got your nose done when were you able to leave your home? Healing wise...

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  42. I love this post Jennifer, I completely disagree that choosing to be a stay at home wife/mother is betraying feminism, I get so confused with people who say "doing this and that etc., is betraying feminism" I personally think you are betraying feminism if you are not making life choices on your own accord and listening to what other people (haters/radical feminists LOL) have to say.

    It is obvious to see that you are hard working and will always be, it is just your personality. That's inspiring and the day that you become a 1% wife doesn't mean you have lost ambition, it means that you have another ambition - which is to raise a family.

    People are such haters! xx love your blog

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  43. Jen, thanks for defending stay-at-home moms that are BLESSED to be able to do so! I'm a stay-at-home mom and have put my career on hold to raise my son. Great post!

    www.michellerodriguezesquivel.blogspot.com

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  44. Hi Jennifer,
    I love your blog, Im so grateful you put up these pics I love seeing your makeup and the clothes you wear. I was just wondering what brow products you use?
    Enjoy your holiday Sophia xx

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  45. Love read Grazia too and used to actually get the Italian version mailed to my house (to keep my language skills in check). Been following your career for quite a while way back in the MySpace days lol. Happy to see where you've landed. I grew up in the same area as you - I'm a few years older and even remember seeing you on Mam'k Ave one day hahaha. Truly a breathtaking girl and your personality shines and resonates in all of your postings. You've worked hard and deserve to enjoy each and every benefit of your accomplishments.

    Love your swimwear by the way. I have about 5 and must buy at least one new one each season. Funny how some of the Westchester girls have suddenly become swimwear designers too... they should take their bird and not bare anything hahaha (im sure you get exactly what lines I am referring to hehehe). To each their own - I have faith in my swimwear!!

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  46. Even though I follow your blog and like your personality, I think dismissing all critics and critical comments as 'haters' is too simple-minded. It reminds me of those girls with orange tans always complaining about 'haters'. Yeah, I really am jealous of that orange tan of yours... Sometimes it's just well-meant advice.

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    1. When someone sends me a comment filled with hate, I can only label them as Haters. There is a big difference between constructive criticism and down right HATING!

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  47. Hi Jennifer,

    Ummm- If I had the choice, I would totally be a one-percent wife and stay at home. I think its great that you do what you love right now, but if you choose in the future to live off your husband, I really don't think its a bad choice - I would be doing it RIGHT NOW if I could. Agreed that the people that are "hating" are just jealous b/c they can't do it. So for now, I will have to be complaining about colleagues and deadlines...here's to me or my husband striking it rich!

    Quick Question - I follow a lot of your updates, but never saw you get the Celine luggage in yellow. Is it new? I am thinking of getting one soon - maybe beige or black. What are your thoughts on it. Do you think its just an "it" bag right now or will stay in style?

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  48. You are beautiful!! what modeling, fitness, and acting agencies did you belong too? I was thinking about modeling but every time i'll set out to go to an agency , they are a scam. lol please help!!

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    1. Thank you.
      For fitness I was with Silver Models

      For Parts - Parts Models

      Acting- Paradigm and CESD

      Print- Gilla Roos, Abrams, CESD, a few of the others closed.

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  49. I have just read through most of your blog ! You are so pretty and down to earth ! x

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  50. Very interesting post Jen! I agree with your view on the article. We only get one life to live and the main goal should be to be happy and content with your lifestyle. Not everyone is lucky and some have to work hard to achieve even small things. but thats just life. My mom never worked a day in her life. My dad's income was enough for the family. But for me, its different. i started working when i was just 18 and now I am 26 and dont see myself quitting any time soon. not that i want to keep working but because i have to work to be able to support myself and get things i want. My job is stressful. I am a marketing personal at a huge tech company and i am constantly under stress. I would love to live my mom's life anyday but i cant afford it right now. Having said that, i am happy with my life. I have a masters degree and i think i am utilizing my educaiton in a good way right now. So do what makes you happy. From the posts that i have read so far, i can tell that you are very honest and amazing person. So dont feel bad if one day you decide you dont want to work. There are people who will hate on just about everything and thats their stress. You live your life the way you want lovely lady. xoxo

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  51. To me feminism is giving women the power to make their own choices and do what they want, not what society or men tells them they have to do. I'm a feminist but would stay home in a heartbeat if my husband became a millionaire. Thanks for sharing, love you and your blog. I really respect how genuine, kind and humble you appear to be.

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  52. I have a girlfriend who constantly reminds me how important it is to find a man who will "take care of me". I think we can't deny the fact that there are women out there who are indeed gold diggers and whose intentions are truly to hit the jackpot with a wealthy man. That being said, I see a lot of disfunctional relationships in which women are treated horribly by the men they "love" and have constant self esteem issues. If a man disrespects you and you stick around because of how much you "love" them, I'm sorry, but people see your true intentions. They know you're sticking around because of his wealth, and let's be honest,no one likes a "hoe". That is why I respect the fact that you are making a name for yourself with your talents in modeling, blogging, and building your swimwear brand. You did not chase your husband and your relationship developed beautifully. The fact that he is wealthy is just icing on the cake. I still believe you would be doing the same thing today if he wasn't wealthy.

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  53. Dear Jennifer,

    I came across your blog very recently, and since then I can't stop admiring your posts and your beauty. Beautiful women like you motivate me to take care of myself and to look sharp as often as possible. I really want to thank you for that!

    Also, I was hoping to get a piece of advice from you. I have been thinking about lip augmentation for a quite a while. But I am more scared about unsuccessful results than the injecting process. I live in Chicago, and when I looked at the website of local surgeons, I am not that impressed with those "before and after" photos. That is what kind of stopping me. But then I look at those beautiful lips like yours or Kim Kardashin, for example, then I want to do it still.

    Jennifer, please recommend what should I do in this situation. Do you know any bad examples? Is it worth doing it? If I could get the lips that look like yours, I would have done it without hesitation. But how can get the guarantee? Btw, I am 25 years old, with normal/average lips, blond, and eastern european.

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  54. You are so right!!!
    I think that people who grew up in a traditional family with a stay at home mom (like me) have that sense of wanting to raise their own children more than people with more "modern" upbringings. It's a shame how a lot of ppl look down on you nowadays for wanting to focus on just being a mom.

    Kalo Brady

    xoxo

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  55. I agree that it's not right to judge women for wanting to stay home if they have the option to do so. However, I hope you realize that the last part of your post is also extremely judgmental to women who do NOT choose to stay home. It is insulting to hear you say that every woman wishes they could stay home and those that can't or don't are simply jealous. I worked hard to go to a top tier law school and forge a career for myself. Many other women also work hard for and enjoy their careers. It's fine for you to choose to stay home but it is equally fine for a woman to CHOOSE to work, regardless of her family's financial status.

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    1. I think you totally misread what I was saying. I thought I made it really clear that this whole post was about woman having the choice to do what they want, having an amazing career or being a stay at home mom. " There is no wrong or right when it comes to what you want to do with your life and how you want to live it. I think quite frankly, if you could, you would and those who look down upon the 'one per cent wives' who choose to trade in their careers to be stay at home wives/ moms are just jealous and envious that they can't." I stated that those who LOOK DOWN upon other woman who choose to be a stay at home mom and think that it is WRONG are jealous or envious- not every woman who chooses to work. Let me remind you that I do not have to work but I choose to run, own and operate my own clothing line with my partner Lilly and we both enjoy doing what we do as well. :) We as woman should empower each other, encourage each other and support each other. Hope you understand what I was saying

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    2. I guess I just strongly disagree with your "If you could, you would" statement. I can and I don't. You are probably right, however, that jealousy is often translated into bitterness and condescension.

      Thanks for publishing my comment; I honestly wasn't sure if you would.

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  56. While I respect your opinion, I do somewhat agree with Mrs. Blair in that it is sad to see so many women turn towards a life of a trophy wife and give up on a career. It is NOT true that all women, given the choice, would happily give up their jobs if they had a rich husband to splurge money on them. I would feel severely uncomfortable if my husband would be the only one bringing in the money and I would have to ask him for pocket money, so to speak. I am so PROUD that I have my own money, my own career! I LOVE my job, and know plenty of women who love their jobs too, just like men do. My two sisters both happily went back to their jobs, despite having quite well-off hubbys, because they went INSANE at home, not having anything substantial to do.
    Reading through the comments here I feel that the idea comes across of women not liking to work and men happily "providing" for their pretty wives - holy moley, have I stepped into a time machine and arrived back in the 1950s?
    It is painful for me to see women on here write about how happy they are playing tennis, baking and going to the gym to keep their physique in order all day so that their rich, older husband will be pleased with them, thus reducing themselves to merely looks. What a vapid life, and what a deep blow for those women who fought so hard to bring equal pay, equal opportunities and the chance to work in a profession for our sex.

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    1. I must admit this article was thought provoking for me also as i became, maybe not the 1% wife but, a wife of an older, successful man at young age (got engaged at 23, married at 24 and now at 25 i'm pregnant with twins)
      one would say i have been fortunate enough not to work for the past 2y, move from Europe to LA, spend all my time on leisure and get everything i ask for - and I AM grateful for all this - but I AM NOT 100% happy, i would even say i recently went through a mild depression living this shallow life, after a while i couldn't even bring myself to enjoy gym, shopping, trips or nice restaurants any more
      i met my husband while pursuing a degree and just diving into a challenging career, i think he also loved my drive but eventually his work posed some serious changes to our lifestyle, and although we always had an option to pull out - it wouldn't make much sense to do so, we decided on everything together, always trying to take into consideration what's best for US as a couple/OUR very own little family but that didn't mean doing what i've always done ie. whatever was best purely for ME, and that was a huge obstacle to overcome in my mind, although i was ready for marriage and babies, i wasn't yet in my 30s, stressed out and fed up with my boss, i was still full of enthusiasm to get up every morning and do something meaningful with my life
      and i dont mean to offend anyone here, surely being a stay at home mom or a housewife has a huge meaning too but after getting a little taster it is not something i personally could give my 100% to and commit myself to for the next decade or so, i'd remain unhappy and that'd probably affect my whole family, i have already decided, and it keeps me going, to resume working some months after having the babies and do nothing to prove myself to anyone but things that make me happy

      thanks for sharing this, i'll certainly repost on my blog, take care and good luck x

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  57. i want to be a 1% wife!!!! u are so lucky. i work late hours in the hospital and am so tired all the time, and cranky! i agree.. people who are haters are envious of u. u seem like u have an easy life. im envious! but u seem like a nice person so im glad u are enjoying it. some people are just luckier than others and need to accept it. people need to appreciate what they have (and i need to keep reminding myself). i seen patients with cancer and trauma patients all the time, and its really depressing.. im sure they regretted all the times they felt down for themselves before the cancer/trauma occurred.. for people who are jealous of u and feeling sorry for themselves, they need to think "it could be worse.''

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  58. I know i am late in commenting, so I am not sure if you will see this...but this article REALY spoke to me.

    i could be a 1% wife. However, i am currently still working. TO be honest, it really doesn’t make any sense for me to work financially... and now that we have a 18 month old daughter... i could definitely be at home instead. I don’t even particularly enjoy my job. Reading this made me question "why am i still working?" is it to prove to people that i am not a 1% wife??IS it to hold on to some sort of independence? i don’t know. The truth is, people who have known me for a long time started to act differently towards me...so i cant even imagine how it would be with you...I’m just a nobody living her life LOL

    I’d say we live a relatively low key life...yes we have a nice house...but it could be a lot nicer if we wanted... no one (including my family) really knows how much my husband makes... and i think they assume we live extravagantly...where the fact of the matter is, i believe we live quite modestly. I feel I catch myself sayi8ng weird things like “ I want to save up for XX item” when speaking to friends, perhaps so I don’t sound bratty like I don’t need to worry about money? Don’t get me wrong, we are by no means Billionairs, however we are blessed and money isn’t an issue .

    I feel as a woman who has married someone wealthy, people ready to judge and make assumptions, where the fact of the matter is, i love my husband regardless of money. I guess people may not stop judging, BUT i guess i can stop caring about what people think and live my life for me and my family....

    This article really made me consider leaving my job after we have our second child… what better job than raising healthy bright kids? …..something to ponder……

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  59. I love your blog, your so humble and gorgeous. new follower here :)

    Xo

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  60. Hi,

    I just found you through pinterest and I'm glad I did because I really enjoyed reading your blog post above. I agree with everything you stated and its unfortunate that when a beautiful girl marrys a wealthy man, negative comments are bound to surface.

    Best of luck with your bikini line.

    -Rose

    http://rollinstyle.blogspot.com/

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  61. Hi Jennifer!
    Just wanted to say thank you for sharing this amazing post. You are truly an inspiration to me. I really love this blog and im a huge fan of yours! Well, keep doing what you do best! Xoxo :)

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  62. I just discovered your blog after following you on instagram for a while, I have to say I am so inspired by you and love how humble and grounded you are. You are absolutely stunning and give such a good perspective on life. I agree with this post one hundred percent and love that you are brave enough to ignore negative backlash and speak your mind. Thank you for taking the time to keep this blog going, it's much appreciated! Love!

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  63. Hi Jennifer ! hope I will exprim myself correctly in english ( I'm french lol ) So, I saw pictures of you sooooo many times and was wondering WHO ARE YOUUU lol and then I saw your blog and red this post. Let me tell you, you seem to be a good person as I can read, I think you did a good choice writing this for every body to discover who you are (also your haters). I just wanted to tell you I know exactly why you wrote this post and how you feel, I had to justify myself, my choices etc so many time because of the "haters" of my life. I think you are a good exemple, woman should have the choice of what they really want to do and focus on it no matter what people say, its so sad that this people have the power of putting down our mood some days. But anyway you are beautiful and seem to have a good perspective of life so focus on your family, do your best, only god can judge us so we have to do our best for him and our family :-)
    Wanted to share my opinion with you, I know sometimes little kind words can make our day little better, so i hope this little comment will gave you a little smile. xoxo from Paris, France

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  64. Your entrepreneurship skills and business skills have inspired me to study business in school! I've always dreamed of running a lingerie line! Thanks for all the updates and making adorable bikinis to flaunt in ! xo Olivia

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  65. Amazing article! Read your blog often as I was/am the 'one percent wife' lol.. My husband makes well enough for us to live comfortably and I don't think that stay at home wives/mothers should have to appologize for their choice. As someone else mentioned; all things in life lead us to a path we take and a place we deserve to arrive at. As yourself, from an artistic family, I chose to keep a career also. Having a jewelry company that I've done privately (custom pieces) and am just starting to advertise/promote now. Before it was more of a hobby, but am trying to further it now. You're swimwear line has truly inspired me to do so, and for that I thank you. Your perspective and positive outlook are always inspiring and admirable. Much appreciation for this article. Your article was incredible and I look forward to reading more!! Congratulations to you and your husband on your pregnancy!! Much love xx.

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  66. Watching videos on YouTube, I found one of yours, and thought "-this girl is fun" and then just came up to your blog and spent hours reading it. This "The one-per-cent-wife" is just awesome. Those women who says you kill feminism if you're a "yummy mummy" are just... dulls. If you do not have the option to chose your own ways, you'r not free, and it's exactly how the woman in the article said, it's all about to swap a tyranny for another one - and this is not feminism. Totally not. Now i just want to say that you gained a new fan and reader from Brazil. I'm in love with your blog.

    xx,
    Ingrid.

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  67. p.s.: in some photos (and videos) I think you look like Kim Kardashian :}

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  68. I completely agree with you! Well put! I just found your blog and think you're just fabulous! Beautiful, genuine and kind! I'll be back to check out your new posts! :)

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  70. I am not sure if some people know what the definition of Feminism is but I pasted it below so that we could all have a look at it and remind ourselves of the meaning behind the word.

    fem·i·nism
    /ˈfeməˌnizəm/
    Noun
    The advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.

    To me this means having the option to make my own decisions and the freedom to do as I please. This means making choices to better my life and my family, not someone pointing a finger and judging me.
    I too married a wealthy older man and he is a wonderful person. He gives me the world and tells me I don't have to work and can stay home or open a cafe (what I would eventually like to do). But for now, only 33, I have decided to work. But one day soon I might take him up on that offer. Why not? I'm sure all those "haters" out there would if they were given the opportunity :)

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